Many apologies at times are insincere

“If an apology is followed by an excuse or a reason, it means they are going to commit same mistake again they just apologized for.” Amit Kalantri

The youngsters here are a prime example of parenting gone sorely awry. They are a modern-day version of Tom Sawyer and Huckleberry Finn. They are emotionally confused children in desperate need of parental control, family services intervention and counselling. They could be your own children. Do you really know what your offspring are up to these days?

S O C I A L L Y   D E L I N Q U E N T   Y O U T H

The mother of the boy on the left , when informed of her son’s destructive acts of vandalism, wanted to heartily apologize to me for his actions.

She told the apartment site manager she would do her best to control his actions. Two days later he smashed in my bedroom window. So much for maternal sincerity.

I always believed that an apology should be sincere and not merely a preamble to future apologies regarding the same issues.

The younger boy’s mom is expecting another child and trying her best to be responsible. She appears to be sincere with her apologies but her attempts to control her boisterous son are visibly futile. 

The mother of the other boy had a number of bruises on her upper arms. She did not speak english and needed her son to translate the conversation for her. 

You can appreciate the fact that my cynicism is shaded by the facts of the case. 

People make mistakes. They regret their errors and wish they could turn back the hands of time and have a second chance to rectify the situation for the better.

Other folks use the act of apologizing as a practical tool to expedite the end to an uncomfortable short-term social embarrassment to themselves rather than seeking a long-term resolution to important issues.

Apologies to be effective need to be sincere not utilitarian.

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Quote of the week: "If you think of yourselves as helpless and ineffectual, it is certain that you will create a despotic government to be your master. The wise despot, therefore, maintains among his subjects a popular sense that they are helpless and ineffectual.-- Frank Herbert quotes .

2 Comments on Many apologies at times are insincere

  1. Such a sad situation with these two boys…I hope you will be safe from them, Gerry. Be careful.

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    • Thank you Lois. It looks treacherous but cannot put my head in the sand. Trying to get a paper trail going so that mother and father will take some type of action. As long as I have her phone number (whichI keep on speed dial she now will know when her angel is misbehaving. Take care too Lois. Enjoy the day.

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