“If an apology is followed by an excuse or a reason, it means they are going to commit same mistake again they just apologized for.” ― Amit Kalantri
S O C I A L L Y D E L I N Q U E N T Y O U T H
The mother of the boy on the left , when informed of her son’s destructive acts of vandalism, wanted to heartily apologize to me for his actions.
She told the apartment site manager she would do her best to control his actions. Two days later he smashed in my bedroom window. So much for maternal sincerity.
I always believed that an apology should be sincere and not merely a preamble to future apologies regarding the same issues.
The younger boy’s mom is expecting another child and trying her best to be responsible. She appears to be sincere with her apologies but her attempts to control her boisterous son are visibly futile.
The mother of the other boy had a number of bruises on her upper arms. She did not speak english and needed her son to translate the conversation for her.
You can appreciate the fact that my cynicism is shaded by the facts of the case.
People make mistakes. They regret their errors and wish they could turn back the hands of time and have a second chance to rectify the situation for the better.
Other folks use the act of apologizing as a practical tool to expedite the end to an uncomfortable short-term social embarrassment to themselves rather than seeking a long-term resolution to important issues.
Apologies to be effective need to be sincere not utilitarian.