Overcoming that fear of crowds Taking a more active role in life


“In fiction: we find the predictable boring. In real life: we find the unpredictable terrifying.” 

Mokokoma Mokhonoana

In school I was that kid standing off to the side trying to avoid the limelight but also missing out on the joy of life that comes from taking an active role in living. Over time and hard work I defeated this personal demon that limited my enjoyment of mingling with other people.

My phobia of crowds began for me in grammar school. Being somewhat of a sickly kid I started school a bit later than my fellow students. That one year age difference made an impression on my image of myself. I loathed crowds in general and of course people in particular.

Speaking before the class ,answering questions posed by my concerned teachers or just mingling with fellow students during recess was difficult. I was not living life but becoming merely a spectator of reality. This frustrated me to no end.

It took a lot of work, maturity and of course personal determination to overcome this menacing spectre. A Dale Carnegie public speaking course helped me in my professional career. Before this I was the reporter who feared crowds, people and the limelight. Ironic isn’t it?

I eventually realized that I was not the center of the universe but did have an active part to play in it. I also appreciated more fully the fact there were people in the real world who needed my reporting skills and involvement to help them unravel their own situations that made their lives miserable and in need of resolution. 

Journalism helped me overcome my fear of people.



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11 Comments on Overcoming that fear of crowds Taking a more active role in life

  1. I liked that. “I eventually realized that I was not the center of the universe but did have an active part to play in it.” We all have a part. Everyone matters. Thank you for being “YOU”. Hugs

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  2. Well said, Gary. On this same issue, the mantra I have given myself, “The world doesn’t revolve around me but I do have to be the center of my universe by listening to and following my heart.”

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  3. I scrolled down to write and found that MLou had already done it for me 🙂

    I liked that line as well.

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  4. Good post – and I can relate to this. Thanks for sharing, hope your day is going well!

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  5. I am not a huge fan of crowds either, but I don’t fear them and don’t feel suffocated when I’m in one. Many times I feel that crowds are looking on something else and not me, so I’m happy to shy away from all these people, so to speak. But fearing people, I think that’s another thing altogether, and it could be due to a number of factors (like being shy or not used to mingling with others). Glad that journalism has helped you feel more comfortable around others. There are so many stories in this world to be told, and good on you for sharing them in your line of work 🙂

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  6. Thank you Mabel. Your thoughts and comments are very much welcomed. There are a great many human interest stories to be written about in the world and I am glad that I can offer my take on many of them. I appreciate your compliment. Enjoy the day.


  7. Thank you Amanda. The ability to overcome this fear and help others was the driving force for me. I am glad I made the effort. Enjoy the weekend.

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